Type 1The Reformer
Shows love byDoing things properly — and keeping their word.
Feels loved when their effort is noticed, and promises are kept on both sides.
Gets hurt when they only hear what went wrong, never what went right.
Enneagram for couples · Built for Asia
Every love begins with possibility. Build it on solid ground.
At the start, everything feels possible. 9Hearts helps two people get to know each other properly — how each one loves, what each one needs, how each one is wired — so the spark deepens into real intimacy and a connection that lasts.
36 statements · 5–8 minutes · do it together, or apart and compare
More than 1,000 people have taken our Enneagram tests
Together a while? Same argument again?Getting to know him
Type 5 · The Observer. Shows love with quiet attention. Give him time and space — he'll give you his whole heart.
Start well
The best time to know each other is at the beginning.
Early love is curious by nature. Use that curiosity well. Four things are worth discovering early — they shape everything that comes after.
How they love
Everyone shows love in their own language. Learn theirs early, and you'll recognise it every day.
What makes them feel safe
Reassurance, freedom, honesty, space. Knowing it now saves years of guessing.
What closeness means to them
For one it's a long, honest talk. For another it's touch, or sitting side by side in quiet. Intimacy grows when you know which.
How they handle pressure
Every couple meets hard days. Know in advance how each of you reacts — and how you find your way back to each other.
The House of Love
Build it from the ground floor up.
Drs John and Julie Gottman have spent five decades studying what makes love last. In their Sound Relationship House, the ground floor is knowing each other's inner world. 9Hearts helps you lay it from day one.
The Sound Relationship House is the research model of Drs John and Julie Gottman, The Gottman Institute. 9Hearts is independent and applies the Enneagram to it.
Create shared meaning
Rituals and values that honour both your types
TRUST
Make life dreams come true
Know what each of you wants underneath — security, freedom, meaning, peace.
Manage conflict
Know how each type handles hard moments — and agree your way back, before you need it.
The positive perspective
Read each other generously, through type. "Quiet" becomes "recharging"; "direct" becomes "honest".
Turn towards each other
Every type reaches for you differently — a Type 5 shares an article, a Type 2 offers to help. Learn to catch it.
Share fondness & admiration
Name the gift in their type — the 1's care, the 7's lightness — out loud, and often.
Build love maps
9HEARTS STARTS HEREKnow each other's inner world — hopes, needs, what love looks like to them.
COMMITMENT
Every type speaks love its own way.
From invisible to visible
Love, translated.
What we say isn’t always what we mean. Each type has its own language — learn your partner’s, and you’ll hear the love underneath.
Type
What you hear
What they mean
6Type 6
The Loyalist
The Loyalist
“Who else will be there?”
“I want to know I can count on you.”
Try: “I’ll message you when I leave.”
5Type 5
The Observer
The Observer
“I need some time.”
“I’m not leaving. I’m finding my words.”
Try: “Take an hour. I’ll be right here.”
2Type 2
The Giver
The Giver
“I’m fine, really.”
“I’d love you to notice me too.”
Try: “What would make today easier for you?”
1Type 1
The Reformer
The Reformer
“That’s not how it should be done.”
“I care about this — and about us.”
Try: “Thank you for caring this much.”
Every type has a language of its own. Your result shows yours — and your partner’s.Take the free test →
The nine in love
Nine ways to love. Nine ways to feel loved.
Everyone loves in their own way — and needs to be loved in their own way. Find yours. Then find your partner’s.
Show
Type 2The Giver
Shows love byCaring for their partner’s needs, often before being asked.
Feels loved when someone asks what would help — and really listens.
Gets hurt when they keep giving and nothing comes back.
Type 3The Achiever
Shows love byBuilding a good life together and making things happen.
Feels loved when they’re valued for who they are, not for what they get done.
Gets hurt when love seems to depend on their results.
Type 4The Individualist
Shows love byDepth, honesty and real emotional presence.
Feels loved when their feelings are understood, without a rush to fix them.
Gets hurt when they feel ordinary, or not really seen.
Type 5The Observer
Shows love byQuiet attention, loyalty and thoughtful small gestures.
Feels loved when they get space, and their pace is respected.
Gets hurt when they’re pushed to talk before they’re ready.
Type 6The Loyalist
Shows love byBeing steady, loyal and there when it counts.
Feels loved when they hear plain words that all is well — and see it every day.
Gets hurt when plans change without warning, or their worries are brushed off.
Type 7The Enthusiast
Shows love byBringing energy, fun and new things to try together.
Feels loved when the fun is shared, and they don’t feel fenced in.
Gets hurt when love starts to feel like a cage, or the same routine every week.
Type 8The Challenger
Shows love byProtecting, providing and being fully present.
Feels loved when their partner is straight with them and stays steady when things get strong.
Gets hurt when they feel controlled, or find out something was hidden.
Type 9The Peacemaker
Shows love byAccepting their partner as they are and keeping home peaceful.
Feels loved when someone asks what they want — and waits for the answer.
Gets hurt when voices are raised, or their wishes are quietly overlooked.
1 / 9Swipe for all nine
Not sure which one you are — or your partner? Take the free test · 5–8 minutes
How it works
From first spark to really knowing, in three steps.
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Each of you takes the free test
36 short statements, 5–8 minutes, free. You see your top two types and your blind spot in love.
Then: your Love Manual →3 quick wins for this week, how you argue and make up, and a “How to love me” card.RM 292
See your X-Map for Couples
Ten everyday moments of love — where the two of you naturally meet, and where to take a little more care. With one line to try for each.
Open the X-Map for Couples →3
Talk it through, together
A guided 90-minute conversation with a 9Hearts advisor — from knowing each other to deeper intimacy, floor by floor.
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Together a while?
What you had is still there. Let's bring it back.
Years of work, children, parents and small misunderstandings can cover it up. When your relationship still matters and you want to find each other again, start here.
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Daniel Yeo
Simyee Lim
Created by
Daniel Yeo & Simyee Lim
Founders of Business Enneagram Asia and creators of X-Map™. They use the Enneagram with leaders and teams across Malaysia, Singapore and China — and found that what helps people work well together helps them love well together too.
Daniel: IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional · Simyee: Glocoach Coach of the Year 2024 · Kuala Lumpur, serving Asia
Meet the foundersIn their own words
Seeing each other clearly changes things.
From our Enneagram sessions with couples and families.
★★★★★
“Both my husband and I are more aware of how we interact with each other. … I myself am more aware of the way he needs information in order to sustain himself and so, instead of taking things personally, I give him the information he needs in order to feel secure. We are happier for attending the session with Daniel and Sim Yee.”
ShenLife Coach in Malaysia★★★★★
“Change is hard and I'm not fully there yet — but this clear self-understanding is the most real thing I took away. Doing the test together with my husband has also helped our relationship a lot.”
★★★★★
“On a personal level, he has coached my family on how to communicate more effectively with one another, helping us understand situations through each other’s lens, not just our own.”
Jeanette LeeSenior Financial Planner in SingaporeQuestions couples ask
Is this a compatibility test?
No. No pair of types is "wrong" for each other. The X-Map shows where you'll meet easily and where to take more care. Every pairing can work.
We've only just started dating. Is it too early?
It's the best time. You're curious about each other anyway — the free test gives that curiosity somewhere to go. Singles can take it too, to understand what they bring.
How accurate is a 36-statement test?
It's a first read — a mirror, not a label. Your type is something you recognise, not something a test hands you. The guided conversation helps you confirm it.
We've been together for years. Is this for us?
Yes — see Rekindle, made for couples who want back what they once had.
